Snow For Christmas

By Klemente Cisneros

     You are not the most important person on earth. We all go through hard times. We all fight with family. We will all be disappointed by friends. We all try and fail. We will all lose a loved one. The beauty of it all is that we can start over. We can rise, restart and move on. We can all do more than we think and better than we thought. Thus, in your darkest moments, never hate, humiliate or deny the right of happiness and humanity to others. Don’t be so arrogant as to assume you are the only one suffering. Or that your pain is so peculiar that you don’t owe others the courtesy of polite behavior, kind conversation, understanding and dignity. When you fail to be good in your darkest moment, you prolong your pain and infect others with it. Besides, being mean, racist, violent, introverted, passive/aggressive, elitist, snobbish, and/or rude because you’re upset or in a slump is childish and silly. Moreover, being sad deprives you of the most precious thing in the world: happiness. Why would you want to be sad when it feels really bad and makes you miserable?


One of the most notorious and strong thigs I’ve seen over the years is the time spent by people dealing over a heartbreak. They waste precious time regretting and feeling sorry about someone leaving them. It’s always the same story. Someone breaks their heart and they let time heal their wounds. But, does time really heal our wounds? Or do we stop caring about it? Clinical psychology defines love as a mental state where your brain releases certain substances that your mind identifies as affective sensations. Yes, love is chemical, but so is a heartbreak. A heartbreak, according to clinical studies, is the release of certain substances that reverse the sensations of love–sensations the brain identifies as pain. Furthermore, psychology also states that all these substances stop being released when we stop caring about the problem. However, the strange thing here is that only the substances that cause pain can be retained, but those who cause good are uncontrollable.


After filling up my knowledge with the information above, I became aware that being sad about something isn’t really an undefined state but a chosen condition. Thus, we could be sad about something all we want, for as long as we want to. Or we could just stop caring and move on. That’s the beauty of the mind. It does not like pain for it knows how to get rid of it. Also, memories are not recycled like atoms in a molecule. They can be lost forever if they cause pain. We waste precious time being sad about something we shouldn’t even be sad about. If something went wrong it’s because it wasn’t right at all. Isn’t it simple? Plus, being sad and mean pushes people away and makes you look like a fool to everyone. Therefore, if someone is interested in you, he’ll never get close enough for you are arrogant, hating, and with a frown that could pick up dust from the floor. You always complain that you can’t never find the right person for you, but before anything make sure you aren’t holding onto the wrong one for too long.


I can tell you I have experienced many disastrous situations throughout my life. The more I got attached, the more I got hurt. It wasn’t until last year that I realized I was wasting too much time being sorry about something I shouldn’t be sorry about. That all the tears and sorrow was pushing away many people who wanted to get close. I wore a frown to school, and I cried myself at nights trying to find an explanation why someone would leave me for no reasonable reason. I realized I was wasting my life and sucking the life out of those who I inflicted my pain into. One day I decided I wasn’t going to care any longer. That I was going to restart and continue my life believing in love. Because, honestly, everyone deserves a chance of love. Just because someone hurt you, it is not fair to deprive others the privilege to make you happy. Therefore, I decided that no matter the situation, no matter the pain, I was going to love hard and deep whoever that wanted to love me. I discovered something amazing. The harder the situation the easier it was to overcome.


First of all, I realized loving someone wasn’t about wanting something for myself, about being selfish. I found out that love is something more pure. Love is patient and kind. It is never rude, jealous, or boastful. Always selfless and blind. I knew that if whatever I was feeling couldn’t keep me from letting go of the person, it was certainly not love. Thus, if it wasn’t love, it should not hurt; but if it was love it should not hurt either because I could be selfless enough to let go and embrace the beauty in the breakdown. Because if it’s love it will be beautiful, pristine, flawless. It will never be neglected and savaged by whatever the reason broke us apart. If you really love someone, there will always be a special place in your heart for him, a place so beautiful and pure that hate, regret, or resentment can’t never trespass to inflict sorrow. Thus, you need to embrace that place, that feeling and stop feeling guilty or sad. Never be afraid of love, because there will always be someone who will be willing to lick your wounds, someone who is worthy of your love, your heart, and your pain. Yet if you’re still holding onto the wrong person for all the wrong reasons, the right person might pass you by without you noticing.


Whit all these words said in this piece of writing, you should now know you must forget all of your insecurities and reject the sorrow in your heart. Wipe away your tears and move onto the next chapter. But never be afraid of love. Open your heart and let it burn inside you, because, besides all the pain it might cause you, love is the best thing you’ll ever feel in your life. Take a chance and love deeply, for you can’t ever say you love snow on Christmas and and look for shelter, then say you love sun and look for shadow; or say you love wind and hide behind a crystal. Thus, you can’t hide from love if you say love is all you need.




Love,


Klemente